Discover expert tips on how to make him obsessed with you using psychology tricks and techniques. Create a deep connection and build a lasting relationship.

20 years ago, American writers Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider collected advice on how a woman can get the man of her dreams in their best-selling book. Since then, the feminist movement has been revived and strengthened, and such literature has been labeled as “sexist.” However, “The New Rules” is still being reprinted and has many fans and followers. What’s the secret?

“The secret way to get a guy: Be a challenge. Treat him like you don’t care about him,” say Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider. They say it’s all about creating an air of mystery and making a guy want to meet you, which is rare these days. “The Rules” are a way to talk to any guy (assuming he’s the one who started the conversation, in person or online) that makes him obsessed with you and ready for a serious relationship.”

How to Make Him Obsessed With You.

1. Be a girl unlike any other and look like a girl unlike any other.
2. Don’t approach a man first and don’t start a conversation, don’t call or text a man first.
3. Don’t ask men out on a date via SMS, social media or any other means.
4. Wait at least 4 hours before responding to a man’s first message, and at least half an hour before responding to each subsequent message.
5. “Let’s talk/text later”: always finish everything first – and disappear from sight!
6. Do not respond to SMS or any other messages after midnight.
7. Don’t accept a Saturday date later than Wednesday. “Proper girls” lead busy lives. Surely you’ve already made your weekend plans before Thursday rolls around! If he asks you out too late, don’t scold him. Just say you’re sorry, but you’re busy.
8. Stay away from his social media profiles and rarely post on his wall.
9. Make yourself “invisible” to instant messaging. Even if there’s nothing going on in your life, don’t let the guy know by immediately replying to his messages. Like any other form of communication, he should wait for the opportunity to talk to you. He’ll have to work hard to be interesting to you. Don’t deprive him of this opportunity by immediately replying to messages and sitting online for hours! Remember, you have your own life (school, work, friends, hobbies, workouts, and hopefully dates) and only have 10 minutes to chat. If a guy has a lot to tell you and a lot to ask, he can do it during a date!
10. Don’t spend time with him 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
11. Long-distance relationships: let him offer to communicate more often on Skype and visit you.
12. Don’t text men first, ignore emoticons and winks on online dating sites.
13. Don’t pay for dinner or buy his love in any way.
14. Don’t be self-destructive by dating married men. If he wants to see you, tell him to call you when he’s single. After that, no communication, forget him, say “next!” and focus on finding men who are truly single.
15. Don’t date a man who cancels your dates more than once.
16. Don’t send a man anything that you wouldn’t be happy to leave behind if you broke up.
17. Don’t settle for one-night stands and meaningless relationships.
18. Don’t rush into sleeping with a man. The “right girl” makes a guy wait to help him fall in love with her, her soul, her essence – and not just her body. The longer you delay sex, the longer he will be able to court you, plan romantic dates and dream about you. Men love difficulties and do not appreciate anything that is too easy for them, especially when it comes to sex!
19. Don’t date a man without commitment! If your relationship has lasted more than a year and it is “correct” (you allowed the man to “chase you”, met him no more than 2-3 times a week, refused to spend holidays with him, did not move in with him), then you helped him fall in love with you and want to marry you. A man wants to see you more and more. But if after a year of dating a man has not asked you to marry him, you should tell him that you are a girl of old-fashioned upbringing and are not going to date anyone forever. If he starts making excuses, suggest taking a break from the relationship. Ask him to think it over alone and call when he is ready for commitment.
20. Stop dating a man if he doesn’t give you a romantic gift for your birthday or Valentine’s Day, or forgets about these dates altogether.