One of the most depressing situations that can happen during a meeting is when friends announce to you that they are checking their messages, as if it is something really important. Or out of politeness, they seem to not pick up their smartphone, but try to keep it in sight, glancing at notifications. You cannot control others, but you can start with yourself. If you still have to decide a life and death issue during a rare meeting with a friend, let them know in advance that you are expecting an important call/message, after which you can finally put your phone down.
When friends are wrong, gloating and demonstrating your own wisdom and foresight will not help matters. In addition, your own experience is more valuable than any advice from others. As you know, it is better to try and regret than to regret a missed opportunity. Help your friend see the positive aspects of the situation, instead of pressing on the sore spot. And is it appropriate to rejoice in your rightness when your friend has found herself in a not very pleasant situation?
Perhaps your friend’s call (or visit) caught you at an inconvenient moment, but you should only reschedule the conversation as a last resort, and then to a specific time in the foreseeable future. Being there when you are needed is an important element of friendship, without which the relationship will quickly come to naught. Moral support in difficult times is the least you expect from your best friend. Agree, it’s nice to know that there will always be a minute for you.
You’re pathetic.” A woman should never say this to her partner. Even if he said something critical and it sounded like he was attacking you, returning it in kind is far from ideal. Be an adult.
“My ex was always good…” This phrase should never be said to your partner either . Put yourself in his shoes – how upset would you be about this? That’s exactly how he will feel. Never humiliate your husband by comparing him to anyone, especially his ex.
“Look after the kids, but don’t screw up!” Your husband may not be as good with the kids as you are, but that doesn’t give you the right to boss him around. He has his own way of playing with the kids or taking care of them, and you should respect that. Sure, tell him you’ll be available if he needs anything, but don’t tell him.
. “Everything is fine!” This phrase is very dangerous. Experience has already taught your man that when you say that everything is fine, everything is far from fine. Don’t let him think about what went wrong or be upset that he doesn’t know what to do. It’s better to openly say what offended you.
“You would understand if you loved me.” No, no, honey! He will understand if you tell him. He loves you, and he wants to be a part of all your joys and help you through all your troubles. Don’t belittle his efforts by saying mean things.
“Your family is bad!” We are all very sensitive to our families and the people we have lived with since birth. Instead of openly hurting him, tell him what you didn’t like. Not only will this give you some peace of mind, but it will also help him resolve the crisis before things get out of hand.
“I wish I had never married you!” Such harsh statements mean that you do not value the relationship. This will make your man think that you can live without him and lead to a breakup.
“It’s all your fault!” It’s never one person’s fault. There are times when a situation could have been avoided, but it happened. Evaluate all the events and try to understand why something went wrong. Remember that communication is the key to solving all problems.
“We can’t afford this.
If your man after his salary decides to spend all his money on new fishing rods or an inflatable boat, which he has dreamed of for many years, do not pester him – give him this happiness! Share this joy with him, and become the breadwinner of the family for one month – nothing will happen to you. And the support of your chosen one’s emotional impulse will soon return to you, and you will easily get a new fur coat or a phone.
There are many more examples of stupid phrases that ladies throw at their other half, but learn to be wise, watch your words so as not to destroy the relationship to the ground. It is not for nothing that psychologists advise thinking carefully about the consequences that any thoughtless, stupid phrase can bring.